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Sadey Quinn talks kink: Embrace whatever label you're comfortable with

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What’s your preference in fiction…domestic discipline or erotic spanking? Why?

Reading-wise? I love edgy BDSM fiction. I can get into the romantic domestic discipline stuff on occasion, but holy hell, give me a book with a sex slave and a rough-tough Master, and I’ll dive right in.

Writing-wise? I like to switch it up. Writing domestic discipline comes pretty naturally for me. This is at least partly due to it being a personal fantasy (getting spanked for a reason is soooo hot).

I also really like writing BDSM fiction, and I write shorter stories with erotic spankings.

 Do you see a difference between spanking fiction and BDSM? What is it?

There are spankophiles who would say they don’t practice BDSM. There are domestic discipline enthusiasts who will swear up and down that what they do isn’t BDSM, either.

BDSM has elements of dominance and submission, and of sadism and masochism. All that stuff is present in spankings. Really, if you take the B (bondage) out of BDSM, that’s the only thing that pure spankings and pure domestic discipline is missing.

Even in the realm of BDSM, there are kinksters who have their personal limits. Some subs don’t want to be tied up, but they enjoy a good spanking, perhaps in front of their friends at a club. What makes them different from a spankophile?

When you get down to it, it’s like ordering drinks at a bar when there’s a tequila special. Your girlfriend orders a tequila sunrise. You get a margarita. Your husband takes his tequila straight. Everyone’s drinking tequila, just in slightly different ways.

Label yourself what you want. If you’re enjoying fun, kinky sex, then you’re doing well. Be happy, safe, and respectful, and embrace whatever label you’re comfortable with.

 Did you read spanking fiction before you started writing it?

Yes!

I’ve had spanking and humiliation fantasies since…well, since before it’s appropriate to actually mention. Reading erotica online taught me that I wasn’t a complete freak, and there were others who shared my fetish.

Erotica was a big part of my sexual awakening. I’m not at all surprised I ended up writing it.

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Tell us about your current release 

Title: Bad Girl Good

Genre: spanking, domestic discipline
BLURB: CHLOE IS A PRETTY BRUNETTE WITH A LOT OF SPUNK AND NOT A WHOLE LOT OF SENSE. A
FTER SHE EXPERIENCES YET ANOTHER FAILED RELATIONSHIP WITH A GOOD GUY, HER LONG-TIME FRIEND TODD ENTERS THE PICTURE WITH ROMANTIC INTEREST.


BUT BEING WITH TODD CARRIES SOME WEIGHT. INSTEAD OF DEALING WITH HER BEHAVIOR PASSIVE AGGRESSIVELY, LIKE THE OTHER GUYS, TODD WANTS TO SPANK HER WHEN SHE SCREWS UP. CAN SHE SUBMIT TO A GUY WHO WON”T PUT UP WITH HER WHEN SHE”S BAD?

“BAD GIRL GOOD” IS EROTIC ROMANCE, WITH SEX, SPANKINGS, HUMILIATION, AND ANAL PLAY. THIS NOVELLA IS MEANT FOR AN ADULT AUDIENCE ONLY.

Publisher: Sea and Sky

 Who was the first person you told that you were writing spanking fiction? What was his/her reaction?

My brother.

He was amused.

(And NO, he doesn’t read my books! Or my blog! Eek!)

I’m fairly straight-forward about telling people I write erotica. I’m not ashamed of it, and honestly most of my friends just think it’s quirky and kinda cool.

When you’re not writing, what else do you like to do?

My favorite non-writing activity is, hands-down, sex. When I’m not writing about sex or having sex, I’m reading or cookin’ up some delicious food. I’m a great vegetarian cook (though I’m not actually vegetarian) and can make some really yummy curries. I’m also new to Austin, Texas, so I spend time exploring the amazing restaurants, parks, and music this town has to offer.

Are you currently or have you ever been in a spanking relationship? Do you use real life experiences in your books?

There’ve been elements of spanking and BDSM in nearly all my relationships. I’m sexually submissive, so when it comes to the down n’ dirty, I submit in the bedroom. I’m also a masochist, so spanking definitely pushes the right buttons for me.

I’ve never been in a domestic discipline relationship, and I’m still undecided if I’d want that in my life. It’s a fun fantasy, though!

My stories are absolutely influenced by my real-life experiences. Some of the sex scenes in Bad Girl Good are pretty much directly out of my own bedroom.

When my stories aren’t influenced by real world experiences, more often than not they’re born out of my fantasies. Most sexy scenes in were results of fantasies of mine. I find I write best when I really love what I’m writing.

 What is your favorite spanking implement?

Hands! They’re personal. A hand can really hurt, but it can also gently caress, squeeze, and pinch!

Implements are fun, too. My erotic favorite is the flogger, and for punishments? Probably the dreaded wooden spoon. I hate hate hate (love love love) the wooden spoon…

Spanking is a hot topic that pushes people’s buttons. They either like it or they don’t. What do you think makes it hot, both positive and negative? 

Spanking sounds, to the uninformed, a whole lot like abuse. If it doesn’t turn someone on, I can totally understand why they’d be squeamish. No sane, good person would want to be an abuser, or want to be abused (in a bad way).

Domestic violence is a huge problem. It’s the number one cause of injury to adult women under the age of 44. Sometimes it really is hard to tell the difference between a consensual Dom/sub relationship and an abusive one. Sometimes, the reason it’s hard to tell is

because that line can get blurry.

It’s great to get informed about SSC (safe, sane, and consensual) and RACK (risk aware consensual kink) practices so that, when confronted by someone who is worried about abuse, you can intelligently inform them about fun spankings, consensual domestic discipl

ine, and BDSM.

Kinky sex is all well and good until someone gets [actually] hurt. It’s important to educate ourselves! There are some great links in the resources section of my website, and countless other sources of information on the internet.

Excerpt, Bad Girl Good:

Todd placed his hand on the small of my back as I unlocked the door. Once inside, the door shut behind us, he backed me against the wall and kissed me. My knees felt weak, but he held me in place.

“This is going to take massive willpower on my part, but I think you need a little punishment before we go further.”

I looked up into his eyes and saw he was serious. Dead serious.

“For last night?” I asked, my voice quivering.

“Yes.” He ran a hand through my hair, pulling it away from my face. “I’d like to punish you for a few other things as well, but I think we’ll start slow.”

“Are you going to…” I couldn’t form the words. Was he really going to spank me? Like a child?

“Yes, sweetie. I’m going to spank you. C’mon.”

He held my hand and led me to the couch. He took a seat on the center cushion, right on the edge, and I stood awkwardly beside him.

“Bend over my lap.”

I put my hands over my face. “This can’t be happening.”

“It’s happening.” He grasped my wrist and tugged me forward, pulling me over his lap. I fell into place, embarrassed beyond belief. This was Hot-Todd, who I’d had a crush on forever, and he had me laying across his lap like a little girl.

It was mortifying.

He placed a hand on my ass, hooking the other around my waist. I cringed, and settled my hands on the floor, trying to support some of my weight.

“I know this is hard to accept right now, Chloe,” he said, “but if you give it time, you’ll understand why I’m doing this.”

He swatted me once, sharply. It barely hurt at all, but I cried out in surprise. He paused before spanking me again. Then he rubbed my bottom before beginning anew, spanking again and again. I squeezed my eyes shut and moaned.

“You’re hardly feeling anything through your dress, are you?”

“It hurts,” I lied, hoping to assure him that he was getting his point across.

“Oh? Somehow I doubt that.” He lifted my dress up over my ass.

“Todd!” I struggled against him, but he held me tight.

“Relax.” He spanked me hard, over my panties, and I shrieked at the stinging pain. “In the future, we’ll discuss lying.”

“I wasn’t lying—Oh!” I gasped as he spanked me hard. “Holy shit! Todd! That hurts!”

“It’s supposed to. Watch your mouth.”

He continued, firmly spanking my ass, as I struggled to maintain a shred of dignity. I was wiggling over his lap, kicking my feet, and groaning in pain. He spanked my right cheek over and over in the exact same spot until I couldn’t take it anymore. I flung my hand back to shield the blows, but he caught my wrist and pinned it against my lower back.

“Please, Todd,” I whimpered, trying to hold back tears. “It hurts too much.”


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8 Responses to “Sadey Quinn talks kink: Embrace whatever label you're comfortable with”

  1. Cara Bristol says:

    Thought-provoking take on BDSM & spanking (DD). Like the tequila analogy. Congrats on your release.

  2. Kathy Lewis says:

    Congrats on your release. I love your writings, they are my fantasies in print (ebook).
    Thanks.

  3. Sadey, I absolutely adore this post! My poor BR are very used to monthly “Do I write erotica or erotic romance?” vents? And they give their opinions yet again- “yes, Joelle, you have enough romance, characterization, plot that isn’t just about the sex- you write ER.” Until something I read sends me debating yet again which one of those “camps” I more truly belong in. “Bad Girl Good” sounds like a fun book :)

    • Sadey Quinn says:

      YES! Joelle, that’s another distinction that I find a bit goofy. Is it erotica? Is it pornography? Is it erotic romance? Is it just plain ol’ romance?

      It is what it is. :)

  4. Great post, Sadey!
    I loved your bar analogy about the tequila.

    Welcome back from the injury :( Are you all healed up?

    Congrats on the new release!!
    :)

    • Sadey Quinn says:

      Thanks Katherine!

      Yes, I’m mostly mended. Little achey from time-to-time, but overall I was quite lucky and healed as well as can be expected.

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