Spanking Round Table Discussion: Domestic Discipline



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Round Table Discussion: Domestic Discipline

Host: Corinne Alexander

The topic of DD is near and dear to my heart. I have been in a DD relationship with my husband for a little over five years. It is something that I had to build up the courage to ask my husband for and took 9 years of marriage before I took the plunge. I haven’t always been, but I am now glad I waited.

When we married we already had three children between us so life was very busy. Even though we were both head over heels in love, because we dove right into what for many occurs when they are 10 years into marriage it took extra time to completely settle in and build that foundation of trust that is needed in DD. We had to weather a few storms before we were mature enough to fully embrace this beautiful dynamic. Once we did it was just that final thread that cinched our already happy marriage into harmonious bliss (It helps that I was finally being true to myself.)

What I have learned over the years is that DD relationships come in all shapes and sizes. It seems no two DD dynamics are alike. Even my own DD marriage has changed and evolved and even de-evolved many times over the years. As with all things in life the best framework for DD is one that understands life’s evolution and will change right along with it.

A simple definition of Domestic Discipline is that DD is a practice between two consenting adults where one partner gives authority to the other partner to a small or large degree depending on the agreement they have. This includes the authority to give rules & guidelines as well as consequences if those rules & guidelines are not followed. Some who practice DD give full authority to the dominant partner; while others have only a few agreed upon rules or goals in which the other has the authority to administer discipline for.

DD can be the foundation of a marriage; it can be an agreement between two friends, or a specific agreement between two people solely for this dynamic. While I have seen many different types of DD relationships most couples that I know personally are married or in long term relationships. This dynamic involves a lot of trust and a lot of communication so knowing your partner intimately first is usually best if you have plans to embark on this type of relationship. The biggest difference in “Domestic” discipline in comparison to other discipline lifestyles is that it takes place and extends to the domestic every day areas of the people who practice its lives.

We are all unique individuals. Our relationships are all unique as well. Your DD dynamic should fit like a glove for you (this will take time to develop.) The two of you are the only two that matter in your relationship, so what works for you, uniquely, is exactly what is best for you. Enjoy your individuality in this lifestyle and never compare yours with anyone else’s because each of us have different needs and no one way is the right way.

I chose DD as my topic to host both because it is a lifestyle I live with my husband and one that a huge degree of diversity to it. I am purposely being open with my introduction to DD in this post because I want to open the door to discuss the vastly different ways this dynamic can look household to household. While I am sure that we do not have representatives of every type of DD lifestyle in the discussion today I do not wish to leave anyone out. If you practice DD or know someone who does (or even if you don’t) please feel free to join in the discussion in the comment area of this post and each participant’s posts. We would love to hear from you! Please remember that this is a community building discussion circle so keep your comments kind and open minded. I personally very excited to read so many people’s different perspectives and experiences!

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2 Responses to “Spanking Round Table Discussion: Domestic Discipline”

  1. Casey McKay says:

    Great intro Corinne! I really enjoyed participating this week and I am looking forward to reading all the posts!

  2. I love this post, Corinnne. It’s great how you touch on the fact that DD can be everywhere from a few things to everything given over to the HoH

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